comments like: " waiting to get her is just like being pregnant"
" She is so lucky to have you"
" when do you get one?"
" I guess you will have to eat a lot of rice now"
" who could just give up a baby?"
" wow you must make a lot of money to be able to adopt"
" she is Asian so she is going to be so smart"
So far I usually process the information quietly and do not say anything. I usually run the other way, knowing that their heart is in the right place and feeling so under qualified to help them see things from a different perspective.
My search brought me to some great resources and gave me the confidence I need to have some great conversations.
Most of the resources also made me realize how many people fail to ask questions or discuss the adoption as they do not want to upset us or sound foolish. We want you to know that we welcome all discussions and love to hear from you. Some information especially about Grace is very private. As her parents it is our job to protect her and that means that we need to decide what information to share and what needs to be kept for Her until she is old enough to decide what parts of Her story she wants to be told.
My mission this year is to be a better advocate for adoption. If I give you a different perspective on something you say, it is not meant to be rude or condescending, it is to show you part of my heart.
I just finished a book called " In On It: What Adoptive Parents Would Like You to Know About Adoption" by Elisabeth O'Toole. It is written for family and friends who has someone who has adopted ( or is going to adopt). I thought it was an excellent book and a pretty easy read (only 9 chapters ) If you would like to borrow it please let us know and we can get it to you!
There are some great resources out there for family and friends of someone who is adopting. If you would like some suggestions please let us know and we can recommend some of our favorites!
We are so thankful that you are apart of our lives. Thank you for all of your love and support!
Blessings!
Most of the resources also made me realize how many people fail to ask questions or discuss the adoption as they do not want to upset us or sound foolish. We want you to know that we welcome all discussions and love to hear from you. Some information especially about Grace is very private. As her parents it is our job to protect her and that means that we need to decide what information to share and what needs to be kept for Her until she is old enough to decide what parts of Her story she wants to be told.
My mission this year is to be a better advocate for adoption. If I give you a different perspective on something you say, it is not meant to be rude or condescending, it is to show you part of my heart.
I just finished a book called " In On It: What Adoptive Parents Would Like You to Know About Adoption" by Elisabeth O'Toole. It is written for family and friends who has someone who has adopted ( or is going to adopt). I thought it was an excellent book and a pretty easy read (only 9 chapters ) If you would like to borrow it please let us know and we can get it to you!
There are some great resources out there for family and friends of someone who is adopting. If you would like some suggestions please let us know and we can recommend some of our favorites!
We are so thankful that you are apart of our lives. Thank you for all of your love and support!
Blessings!
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